Coming Back Down


My goal for this week was to do a regular blog post over the weekend, and then a favorites post today, however neither of those things are happening.

I spent the past five days at my parent’s house in Ohio. It was a much-needed break from reality and my everyday life, and I couldn’t make myself stick to any sort of habit.

I did do a lot of reading this week, between audio books and my normal reading- but wasn’t able to finish anything that I liked enough to do a favorites post. By next week I will have some things finished that will be worthy of blogging.

As for a regular blog post, I made it a point to barely touch my computer all weekend. The break was so good for my mental health, and I only wish it had lasted a little longer.

Instead of sticking to a writing schedule and strict work schedule, I spent time with my parents and siblings, played more with the dogs, read more, ate whatever I wanted, and slept in. Time was less important, and every second was well spent.

I drank without worrying about waking up the next morning, I didn’t time myself for anything, I slept until waking up naturally, and I ate what I wanted without thinking about it. It was surreal.

I think it would be helpful to make it a point to give myself this kind of break at least once a month. It’s so easy to get lost in your career/chores/schedule/etc. that you can completely forget who you are and why you’re doing what you’re doing.

So I am adding that to my New Year’s resolutions. At least once a month I will take a day unplugged from technology, eating and sleeping when I want, and taking care of myself.

What do you do to recharge mentally? Share it with me in the comments- I need some inspiration!

Weekly Favorites: 1


I love getting suggestions for new books/ magazines/ movies/ articles/ shows to try out! There is a lot of great content that’s easy to miss if you’re not looking for it, so I figured I’d share my favorites every week as well. It will be books most of the time, but as other things come up  I will share them too.


This week I wanted to talk especially about this book:


I don’t read a lot of YA fiction anymore, but I couldn’t pass this one up. This story is about the Black Lives Matter movement, and more specifically a young girl who watches her friend get shot by a cop and how she deals with the aftermath. The story was heartbreaking but very hopeful, the characters were wonderful and developed, and it was from a point of view that I personally did not know much about. I listened to the audiobook version of this book, and I’m really glad I did. Bahni Turpin narrated the book, and she had the perfect voice for the story and for all the different characters. I think it’s great that there are young adult books like this are coming out to provide younger readers with important topics.

Here’s my Goodreads review of the book (click the link):

The Hate U Give Review

“What’s the point of having a voice if you’re gonna be silent in those moments you shouldn’t be?” 

The second book I read last week that I wanted to talk about is:


I really enjoy memoirs-especially ones that include horrible childhoods that are then recovered from. Running With Scissors was one of the most horrifying yet hilarious memoirs I have ever read of this sort. I would feel myself gasping out of disgust and then immediately laughing minutes later. This story of the author follows him as he watches his mother spiral into serious mental illness, and then as he is placed in the care of his mother’s equally insane therapist. This book definitely highlights some of the ugliest parts of mental illness and manipulation, and it’s probably not for the faint of heart.

My Goodreads review of it (click the link):

Running With Scissors Review

“It’s a wonder I’m even alive. Sometimes I think that. I think that I can’t believe I haven’t killed myself. But there’s something in me that just keeps going on. I think it has something to do with tomorrow, that there is always one, and that everything can change when it comes.” 


What did you read/watch this week that you loved? Please feel free to share in the comments!

Staying Inspired.



Ruts are normal. Whether it’s simply falling off of the wagon for your diet or good habits, or completely hit pause on your life- it happens.

I’ve been finding myself in a complete creative rut for the past couple years. I used to write poetry and short stories, paint, and play guitar consistently.

About two and a half years ago, I started working in an office that took up all of my emotional energy. The job was repetitive, boring but stressful, and left me with no motivation for anything else after I got off. Most of the people I know have or are experiencing this.

If you’re not doing something you love or at least respect, it can take away all desire and motivation for anything else. 

So, since we can’t all just up and leave everything that drags us down, what do you do? Any progress, no matter how small, is progress. You can’t just quit your job, but if it makes you that miserable, you can start taking steps to find something better. If I can do it anyone can. Hate where you live/who you live with/how you spend your time? Take steps, no matter how small, to change those things.

What inspires you? Do more of that. Nothing gives me more motivation to write and leave my comfort zone than reading does, so I read as much as my schedule allows me to. Take as much time as you can to do those things that make life worth living.

Take care of yourself, and you will blossom.

What inspires you? What do you do to rekindle inspiration? 

Let the Sunshine In


Earlier this week I found myself burrowed under several dog hair-coated blankets, surrounded by the flickering of a few bakery-scented candles, typing furiously at my laptop with anger bubbling at the edge of my mind like a wave about to crash. My twelve hour work day had just begun a few hours prior, and I couldn’t focus or conjure up a single positive thought.

The managers of my rental house had been neglecting to fix our heat or our water, which were broken for over a week. Bronchitis had taken hold of my body for about three weeks, refusing to allow me any rest. I’d been working 60 hour weeks even through all the holidays, and I couldn’t catch a single break.

An hour later I forced myself out of my cramped, cozy workplace in order to take my dogs outside for a walk. My body physically recoiled from the 10-degree weather as we bustled out the door and onto the icy sidewalk but the sun hit my face and my anger melted away.

I often underestimate the wonders of Vitamin C. SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) is a real thing, and often makes my regular mental health issues so much worse. As much as I dislike bright light, and would prefer an overcast, rainy afternoon any day, the sun truly does a lot of good for me.

Even if you don’t have time for a long walk or an extended period of time outside, going out for just a few minutes, or opening your curtains and blinds to let the light in can help. It’s really easy to get swallowed into the darkness that winter brings- make sure that you’re doing all you can to fight it.

For those of you really, really struggling, here are some easy things you can do in under five minutes to help.

-Open a window in the room you’re currently occupying. If it’s too cold for that, just open the curtains or blinds and let the sun in. 

-Sit on your porch for a few minutes. 

-If you have a mailbox that isn’t attached to your house, walk to and from it. 

-There’s a beautiful invention called a therapy light box that you can purchase. If you sit in front of it, you are provided with the same effect as sunshine. 

-Eat food with a high amount of Vitamin D or take Vitamin D supplements.

Stay safe and happy this winter season my friends.


How do you deal with S.A.D? 


Best Reads of 2017


On this lovely, freezing first day of 2018 I wanted to share my favorite books I read over the last year that were published in 2017.


Lillian Boxfish Takes a Walk – Kathleen Rooney

Lillian Boxfish is such a wonderful, vivid, quaint character.  She’s hilarious, heartfelt, and undeniably charming. This story follows her on the last day of 1984 as she decides to take a long walk around Manhattan. While she walks through the city at night and encounters thieves, security guards, children, bartenders, etc. she’s also reliving the events of the past 85 years of her life. This was a light-hearted novel, but also very thought-provoking- hearing about a woman’s life who has lived through all of the 20th century.


Behind Her Eyes – Sarah Pinborough 

I have talked about this book in a blog post before, and months later it’s still one of my favorites of 2017. This thriller is about a couple that has an extremely strange, creepy secret. If you’re into supernatural elements- the twist at the end of this book will be extremely exciting for you as it was for me. However if you don’t like that sort of thing, this book probably won’t seem that great. The writing and story are exciting, suspenseful, and very easy to read.


Fate of the Tearling – Erika Johanson 

This is the final installation in the fantasy trilogy about a queen in a futuristic world that is currently crumbling. I would highly recommend this entire series to any fantasy fans. The ending was definitely a twist, and not necessarily one that every reader will enjoy, but it did make sense for the story and took me by surprise.


Talking as Fast as I Can – Lauren Graham

This collection of essays from Lauren Graham, who we all know best as Lorelei Gilmore from Gilmore Girls, is a great look into the show and the actresses’ life. Lorelei’s clever and witty sense of humor is clearly purely Lauren’s.  Memoirs from celebrities are hit or miss with me, but this fun, witty, eye-opening, adorable collection of stories from Lauren definitely earned it’s place as one of my 2017 favorites (this one was actually published at the very end of 2016).


Dear Ijeawele, or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

This short book comes in the form of a beautiful letter written from Chimamanda to her childhood friend who wants to make sure she raises her baby girl as a feminist. The letter offers fifteen wonderful, insightful suggestions for empowering a daughter to become an independent woman. If I were ever to have a daughter this is what I would live by to raise her.


The Stranger in the Woods – Michael Finkel

This is actually a true story of a man who ventured out on his own to the woods, and ended up living there completely alone for 27 years. At 20 years old, Christopher Knight dissapeared and was only discovered after almost three decades because he was caught stealing food from someone’s houses. As someone who loves stories of survival and living as a ‘hermit’, I thought this book was amazing and wonderfully entertaining.


Hunger – Roxane Gay

This is a lovely, heartbreaking insight into Roxanne Gay’s childhood trauma and her views and stories of her body. She’s an amazing writer and woman- every book I’ve read of hers, fiction or nonfiction, is fantastic.


Turtles All the Way Down – John Greene

John Greene’s new YA book tackles a mental illness in a really interesting story that involves love, crime, disaster, and teenagers. This was a great look into the world of crippling anxiety. The story was interesting, funny, and a little heartbreaking at times- pretty normal for a John Green book. I really appreciated his honesty and the rawness that he uses to write about mental health issues.


Difficult Women – Roxane Gay

Another beautiful, beautiful book by Roxane Gay written last year. This collection of short stories explores the diverse lives of many different women and the troubles and joys they face in their everyday lives. Another wonderful book from one of my favorite authors.

What was your favorite book published last year? 

Start Again


2018 is upon us. The past year has been particularly challenging- mental health stress, financial stress, career changes, etc. However, we’ve been able to come out of it smiling and very much looking forward to the year ahead. I do have some plans and dreams for this year, and thought I’d share them with everyone.

  • This year I’d like to find myself spiritually. I’d like to research and find out what I believe and what I want to do with that information.
  • I want to read 100 books this year.
  • I’d like to pay off all of my debt.
  • I will strive to become kinder to everyone, not just those closest to me.
  • I will write more. Both for myself and for my blog. I’m also going to start a book during my travels.
  • I will treat my body like the beautiful, strong thing that it is-by eating well, hiking, and working on my mental health.
  • I will spend more time outside my comfort zone in any way possible.

New Year’s resolutions are normally forgotten pretty early in the year, so I try to make them as reasonable as possible and achievable as possible.

What are your goals for the upcoming year? 



Christmas is a strange, nostalgic time for me.

When I was a child it was a magical thing filled with Jesus and mass and family and presents. My sister and I would stay up all night after midnight mass and run downstairs at 4 A.M. to look at all the gifts. I loved the decorating, I loved church, I loved the music, I loved every single second of it.

I don’t really feel that way anymore. Maybe that’s the way it is when you grow up, the magic of simple things fades away. I am not filled with overwhelming joy during the holidays, now it’s mostly just stress and fatigue.

Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely still celebrate Christmas. Nowadays it’s just me and my spouse for most of the day, and we visit my in-laws most years. There’s no mass or rushing to open gifts, and not nearly as much decorating, but I suppose it’s still nice in it’s own way.

For a while it was extremely difficult to do the holidays without my big family. Even though I’m in a loving, wonderful relationship, it just didn’t feel the same at all. Now I realize that it’s not bad, just extremely different. I absolutely loved growing up in a large family, but I don’t want one of my own. My little family is wonderful and simple, and our subtle, anti-climatic holiday celebrations mirror that.

Becoming an adult and your own person is extremely difficult, especially around the holidays, but making your own traditions can make things a lot easier.

No, I’m not at all religious anymore- instead of mass my spouse and I spend time together getting the stockings ready for our dogs in the morning while drinking hot beverages and listening to music. Instead of waking up at 4, we sleep in and snuggle most of the morning. There’s no staying in pajamas with chocolate and cheese danish all day- now we share part of our day with our in-laws and put real clothes on.

What are your favorite holiday traditions? How did you feel transitioning from childhood to adulthood during the holidays?

What’s This All About Anyway?


Over the past few months I have been trying to decide what I really want to say with this blog. What is the theme or even just the point?  I’m a completely average person with a pretty normal life- who really cares?

I have come to the conclusion that this is mostly just for me. My mental health depends on having this kind of outlet, and if other people want to read it- then that’s just a bonus! I have been extremely flattered that people are following my blog and interested in what I’m saying.

This blog is mostly about mental health-illness, awareness, coping mechanisms, etc. To me, that’s been the main focus of 2017, and it’s an important subject for people to be talking about. As we head into 2018, the main focus will be the same.

This blog is also just about my personal interests, it’ll be about my travels once May comes around, opinions, pets, activities, etc. I don’t think I’ll ever limit it to just one small subject. However, everything is going to come back around to keeping peace of mind and inner tranquility, especially with mental illness always looming overhead.

What other topics pertaining to mental health would you like to hear about? What do you find most difficult in everyday life because of mental illness? I’d love to hear your stories and opinions. 

Be Kind to Yourself.


I haven’t been as consistent with my writing over the past two weeks- between working on my mental health, starting a second job, and Christmas coming up I haven’t had a lot of time to myself . This week I wanted to share some tips I had for dealing with mental anguish/stress/sadness/seasonal affective disorder/whatever is bothering you.

Disclaimer: if you have serious mental health issues that need to be addressed, you should see a licensed professional and talk to them about the problems you are experiencing. This article is simply for little things that can help your day-to-day stress. These are activities that help me in addition to taking medication for the anxiety and depression I experience. 

  1. If you have the ability to do so- take a walk outside during a break at work. Feel the natural light and clear your mind before going back to your desk. It really, truly helps with problems you found difficult earlier in the day. Even if it’s a five minute walk.
  2. Clean. If you’re really struggling or don’t have the time, focus on one room or one project a day or even a week. Having even a little bit of your house looking neat can be a huge weight off of your chest.
  3. Keep up on focusing on what can benefit you physically. I’ve found that several long walks a day, a rigid skincare routine, drinking lots of water, and eating well have done wonders for my daily life.
  4. Habits. For me personally, having a regular morning routine, nightly routine, and the same work schedule daily is very helpful when it comes to my anxiety.
  5. Read. Paint. Hike. Play video games. No matter how you do it, carve out time for yourself daily or weekly and stick to it. It’s just as important as anything else on your list.
  6. Stay organized- write down your appointments and plans for the day. You’ll feel better if something big isn’t skipped over.
  7. If you are taking medicine, take it regularly.
  8. Above all, be kind to yourself. Realize that you are doing all you can, even if it feels like nothing. You’re doing your best and that’s incredible.


Thanks for reading! Let me know what you think and what you do to help relieve stress.