I’m Back

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Hello friends!

I am so excited to say that I am back and am going to be posting regularly again.

As far as a posting schedule, I haven’t really decided what I am going to commit to at this time. Right now I am going to get back to my regular YouTube videos on Tuesday and Thursday, and then a blog post on Sundays. Then I’ll build from there!

Just a little bit of a life update in case you don’t know my personally – I moved to a different state over the the last few weeks. My spouse, dogs, and I are now in a much better living situation in Ohio.

I also went vegetarian about a week ago. A couple years ago I was vegan, and ever since starting to eat meat afterwards I have wanted to officially give it up again.

My work has also been a little more hectic. I started a second job that is quite a bit of writing, and giving myself a break from creative projects has been a nice way to ease into a new life. However, I have really, really missed making videos and writing blog posts.

That brings me to my last point. Over the past few weeks I have noticed a lot more followers on both this blog and my YouTube channel, and it has been such a heartwarming mood boost for me. For everyone who is new to my content, I can’t thank you enough for connecting with me and enjoying what I spend a LOT of time making. Thank you.

-Kristen

Rewarding Yourself

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This week isn’t really going to be a lengthy post, I just wanted to give you guys a brief life update and some thoughts on being nice to yourself.

Over the past week I got a full time writing job.

In case you don’t know me personally, this is pretty much all I want out of life. I love to write, and getting paid for it is the dream.

Something I struggle with and strive to be better at is patting myself on the back when something good happens. It’s SO easy to punish myself when I mess up, or something goes wrong in my life, but not when I succeed.

Why is that so hard?

Part of me feels that I just don’t deserve it. Another part of me thinks that if something decent happens, it has to be dumb luck. While I know in my part that neither of those things are true, it’s a hard mental block to pass over. This year is about love, acceptance, and forgiveness of myself, so it’s something I am determined to overcome.

Any advice that any of you have is welcome for this.

I worked hard, I went through a lot to get this job, and I got it. Yay! As part of my resolution to love myself better this year, I am finding a way  to celebrate.

Not quite sure how yet, but positive recognition is important and it’s something I will be giving myself.

How do you reward yourself when something good happens? Is it difficult for you as well? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Me Too.

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#MeToo

If you spend anytime on the internet, I am sure you’ve seen many allegations against famous people by men and women that have been assaulted by them. There is apparently a lot of controversy in these news stories, with the countless comments of-

“Innocent until proven guilty.”

“I’ve loved him and been a fan forever, he couldn’t have done this.” 

“These girls just want attention/money/fame/etc.”

“This is a witch hunt, there’ll be no men left to perform.” 

I have a few thoughts on this. It’s fine if you disagree with me, but this is something I won’t change my mind on.

A few years ago, I found myself at a police station, shaking, scared and crying while telling the cops that I had been sexually assaulted. It was humiliating, horrifying, and it made me relive the worst day of my life over and over again. A very good friend of mine insisted that I go, otherwise I never would have set foot in that building. The police officers were trying to be as nice as possible, but the conversation was extremely disheartening.

“There’s no way to prove it at this point.” 

“What were you wearing?” (Yes, really.)

“Even if this goes to court, it’ll probably be worse for you than it will for him.” 

“This happened in your home? Why did you invite him in if you didn’t want that?” 

This is why I am completely enraged when people question celebrities who didn’t come forward 10, 15, 20, 40  years ago. Many of these women were taken advantage of by men of endless power at a very young age. Ridiculing their decision to wait is ridiculous. I never would have told a single soul had it not been for a friend.

As for all of your heroes going down, I can’t say I feel the least shred of sympathy for them. Kevin Spacey went down because of Kevin Spacey, not because of anything else. Sure, they might be talented people, but that’s no excuse at all. Think of all the talent we are most likely missing out on because of the assault and pedophilia going on in Hollywood.

I would rather see all of Hollywood torn apart than to have these men running free allowed to do whatever they’d like. They made a decision to hurt other human beings and are suffering the consequences. I really used to enjoy Woody Allen’s movies, now you wouldn’t catch me at one if I was paid to go.

I will always believe someone who has the courage to come forward, in any situation. If it turns out that someone has lied, then OK. But I won’t start out by not believing someone who is speaking out about something so horrific and personal.

If someone you know mentions that a man or woman has hurt them, please take them seriously. Be willing to listen. Be there for them. This is not something that should ever be taken lightly.

I really don’t want to go into too many details with my own experiences, but I wanted to share enough to let everyone know that it is FAR more common than you think. Be sensitive. Domestic violence, assault, rape, molestation, etc. is everywhere. Both men and women can be victims or abusers, and I truly believe that taking down those in the public eye is a huge step for awareness and working on the root of the problem.

I would love to hear any thoughts you have on this. I know this is a sensitive topic, so please be respectful. Thank you for reading!