I have a question for those of you reading this today, especially if you’re over the age of twenty – how do you make new friends?
Do you find it as difficult as I do? If you aren’t in college or a workplace that allows you to cultivate new friendships, how do you seek them out? Do you even attempt to?
After moving five hours away from the vast majority of the people I have known for two decades, I found myself in an interesting dilemma – besides my immediate family, I know no one here. I have no friends besides my spouse, and at almost 24, I haven’t a clue how to make them.
I also realize that because I work about 45-50 hours a week, entirely from home, my chances are even slimmer than someone who works in an office or outside of their own house.
Another uncomfortable truth I realized was that I haven’t made a new friend since I was in high school. Not that this is terribly important, but making a connection with someone new and having it last has not happened for me in 6-8 years. Talk about being rusty.
Through this blog and my YouTube channel, I have found some incredibly people online to interact with. People that have similar views and like to read as much as I do, and sometimes I doubted whether these people existed outside of a few family members. However, these are not people that live near me, that I can invite over or go out and have coffee with.
It’s not that I need dozens of friends. In fact, I’d love to just find one or two people nearby that I can meet up with and talk to once a week or so. I have never been someone to have a multitude of friends in my life, and that is honestly perfect for me. Being extremely introverted makes parties and large gatherings uncomfortable for me, and being an INFP makes me want to have more intimate, smaller interactions with humans.
There are apps now that allow to find groups and meetups around you to meet people that like the same things as you. I think I am going to try that out and see what I think. However, I still wanted to ask those of you with similar experiences, what do you do when seeking out new companionship? Any and all advice is welcome.
Thank you so much for reading, it means the world to me.