Start Again

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2018 is upon us. The past year has been particularly challenging- mental health stress, financial stress, career changes, etc. However, we’ve been able to come out of it smiling and very much looking forward to the year ahead. I do have some plans and dreams for this year, and thought I’d share them with everyone.

  • This year I’d like to find myself spiritually. I’d like to research and find out what I believe and what I want to do with that information.
  • I want to read 100 books this year.
  • I’d like to pay off all of my debt.
  • I will strive to become kinder to everyone, not just those closest to me.
  • I will write more. Both for myself and for my blog. I’m also going to start a book during my travels.
  • I will treat my body like the beautiful, strong thing that it is-by eating well, hiking, and working on my mental health.
  • I will spend more time outside my comfort zone in any way possible.

New Year’s resolutions are normally forgotten pretty early in the year, so I try to make them as reasonable as possible and achievable as possible.

What are your goals for the upcoming year? 

Christmas

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Christmas is a strange, nostalgic time for me.

When I was a child it was a magical thing filled with Jesus and mass and family and presents. My sister and I would stay up all night after midnight mass and run downstairs at 4 A.M. to look at all the gifts. I loved the decorating, I loved church, I loved the music, I loved every single second of it.

I don’t really feel that way anymore. Maybe that’s the way it is when you grow up, the magic of simple things fades away. I am not filled with overwhelming joy during the holidays, now it’s mostly just stress and fatigue.

Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely still celebrate Christmas. Nowadays it’s just me and my spouse for most of the day, and we visit my in-laws most years. There’s no mass or rushing to open gifts, and not nearly as much decorating, but I suppose it’s still nice in it’s own way.

For a while it was extremely difficult to do the holidays without my big family. Even though I’m in a loving, wonderful relationship, it just didn’t feel the same at all. Now I realize that it’s not bad, just extremely different. I absolutely loved growing up in a large family, but I don’t want one of my own. My little family is wonderful and simple, and our subtle, anti-climatic holiday celebrations mirror that.

Becoming an adult and your own person is extremely difficult, especially around the holidays, but making your own traditions can make things a lot easier.

No, I’m not at all religious anymore- instead of mass my spouse and I spend time together getting the stockings ready for our dogs in the morning while drinking hot beverages and listening to music. Instead of waking up at 4, we sleep in and snuggle most of the morning. There’s no staying in pajamas with chocolate and cheese danish all day- now we share part of our day with our in-laws and put real clothes on.

What are your favorite holiday traditions? How did you feel transitioning from childhood to adulthood during the holidays?

What’s This All About Anyway?

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Over the past few months I have been trying to decide what I really want to say with this blog. What is the theme or even just the point?  I’m a completely average person with a pretty normal life- who really cares?

I have come to the conclusion that this is mostly just for me. My mental health depends on having this kind of outlet, and if other people want to read it- then that’s just a bonus! I have been extremely flattered that people are following my blog and interested in what I’m saying.

This blog is mostly about mental health-illness, awareness, coping mechanisms, etc. To me, that’s been the main focus of 2017, and it’s an important subject for people to be talking about. As we head into 2018, the main focus will be the same.

This blog is also just about my personal interests, it’ll be about my travels once May comes around, opinions, pets, activities, etc. I don’t think I’ll ever limit it to just one small subject. However, everything is going to come back around to keeping peace of mind and inner tranquility, especially with mental illness always looming overhead.

What other topics pertaining to mental health would you like to hear about? What do you find most difficult in everyday life because of mental illness? I’d love to hear your stories and opinions. 

Be Kind to Yourself.

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I haven’t been as consistent with my writing over the past two weeks- between working on my mental health, starting a second job, and Christmas coming up I haven’t had a lot of time to myself . This week I wanted to share some tips I had for dealing with mental anguish/stress/sadness/seasonal affective disorder/whatever is bothering you.

Disclaimer: if you have serious mental health issues that need to be addressed, you should see a licensed professional and talk to them about the problems you are experiencing. This article is simply for little things that can help your day-to-day stress. These are activities that help me in addition to taking medication for the anxiety and depression I experience. 

  1. If you have the ability to do so- take a walk outside during a break at work. Feel the natural light and clear your mind before going back to your desk. It really, truly helps with problems you found difficult earlier in the day. Even if it’s a five minute walk.
  2. Clean. If you’re really struggling or don’t have the time, focus on one room or one project a day or even a week. Having even a little bit of your house looking neat can be a huge weight off of your chest.
  3. Keep up on focusing on what can benefit you physically. I’ve found that several long walks a day, a rigid skincare routine, drinking lots of water, and eating well have done wonders for my daily life.
  4. Habits. For me personally, having a regular morning routine, nightly routine, and the same work schedule daily is very helpful when it comes to my anxiety.
  5. Read. Paint. Hike. Play video games. No matter how you do it, carve out time for yourself daily or weekly and stick to it. It’s just as important as anything else on your list.
  6. Stay organized- write down your appointments and plans for the day. You’ll feel better if something big isn’t skipped over.
  7. If you are taking medicine, take it regularly.
  8. Above all, be kind to yourself. Realize that you are doing all you can, even if it feels like nothing. You’re doing your best and that’s incredible.

 

Thanks for reading! Let me know what you think and what you do to help relieve stress.